also like, phil means spending time and money to basically study the opinions of a person who couldnt even fucking imagine the problems we face
vs
someone who lives in this world and trained to learn how HELP PEOPLE,
not teach them ONE GUYS WORLD VIEW
to me the two are barely comparable
its an interesting hobby. thats it. replace every bougie phil dept. and prof. with a self help, self love dept and profs and the world becomes a better place OVERNIGHT
there is just an ocean of difference
but its easier to read about what Marcus Aurelius thought than to admit you have real problems, and need real help solving them; and thats hard to do. it was for me.
but I KNOW nothing could have been as helpful as quickly nor ever so specific to me, my past, my history, my ex partners, types of abuse recieved,
trausma responses, silent symptoms, self blame, self loathing, lack of self esteem , and how none of that stuff is really that scary or even my fault
i have a hunch spending that same time reading any, ANY set of phil books would have had, if no results at all, barely noticobalemones
like, the more people can admit they. - have real problems, need real help, AND that its not their fault - AND that its okay, fixable etc
He kept asking me about CSA and physical abuse from my parents and i never got it. got annoyed at him.
nope, he INSTANTLY recognized my ridiculous, unhealthy, self soothing habit of ending every sentence with sorry. INSTANTLY.
slept on it. gained my trust. explained it to me in a way i could understand.
he saw that i wasnt actually apologizing for real things , it was how I felt most safe ending my sentences
THIS, THIS is the type of stuff that can change your life. I have respect for phil, but I hope we’re all understanding how NO BOOK ON EARTH could have lead me to those conclusions.
I could probably be trappee in purgatory, forced to read EVERY PHIL BOOK EVER, and still know less about myself than I do after a few sessions with a person I liked and trusted just enough to open up to - and respected just enough to realize he was right
no book on earth can do THAT for a person. and that shit, that is how people like me heal. THAT is what it takes.
and its scary, but if any of this is making any of you want to give talk therapy a first/second/third/fourth chance
in fact -
it helped me SsoooooOoooo much. that I would be willing to pay for your first session. whoever you are. including you, nyte.
we could come together as a community and fundraise a fund that exists for NADOTA members in crisis. I can do all the work.
because two things I know
one, if I can help any of you the way I just was, I’d pay almost any sum of money to do so.
two. the thought of any of you being food/housing insecure, unable to afford meds, therapy, ER ANYTHING
i cant think of anything I’d rather help do. Because local community is basically dead.
Empathy is the MOST important emotion. Empathy builds communities. Communities stick together and stay alive by HELPING EACH OTHER
WE ARE A COMMUNITY, WE CAN DO THAT FOR EACH OTHER
idk about any of you, but if we can have a transparent fund that anyone can donate to, anyone can apply to get funds from. reason/amount needed given
