maybe nmaGane is the one.
believing there were worthy qualities and benefit of the doubt and all that, does actually make me the dumbest person on the forum. it's 3 strikes. i own the title.
Yeah you did all of that because you were just such a good person LMAO
yeah i can see how rewarding and fulfilling whatever you think happened, is
this is very entertaining, please continue
You need a sign around your neck that says "DON'T ENGAGE ROMANTICALLY, DO NOT GIVE MONEY" because you obviously can't stop yourself LMAO
as long as yours says the psycho equivalent of jamie lannister without the looks or skills, really.
Funny because the same way Jaimie Lannister sharpened his sword against the whetstone, I sharpened my intellect against internet forums and textbooks.
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jamie could actually use the sword and was much more likable. you know, when he wasn't complicit in watching his lover sister burn the world or busy tossing children off high buildings, and generally just not being a parent to his 3 children, and essentially being a psycho elitist blah blah
but damned if he didn't love his sister.
You know reading this for a second, I felt the way I did before I fucked everything up
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Some context missing here, i'll try and boil it down to avoid the nitty gritty. Because it could quickly get too long.
First to be fair to her it was a bad month at the end of a very bad year. Like awful, the worst, tragic and it was not easy to put yourself in her position. Though I was supposed to book a flight/potentially move in the following month, I tried to get help planning this and it spurred an argument. (the nuances of which would bloat this summary)
Anyway it culminates in her saying the relationship is over, I got distracted re reading it for a refreshers cause its a bit convoluted. I eventually say like wow what a "Wild ride" its been and there were some good memories.
That should be it end of the storytime, but she does like the george costanza quit's his job then shows up the next day like it didn't happen. I get confused ask what's up, shes overwhelmed emotionally says she'll tell me "tomorrow" or soon i can't recall which. Anyway 3-4 weeks later and its never been explained. Though 5-6 weeks or so later when i tell her I met someone on a tinder date she freaks out at me. Says I didn't give her enough time (she never asked for more time), says I should've let her know I reactivated apps/was looking (it was over I felt that was not something she would want to hear about, because she told me not to when we breifly split for a month and i was very open about how shit the apps are), and basically I should've been a mind reader. (talking to me means she still wants me, so she shouldn't have to say positive things or relationship things or really anything but dota and her day to day for me to understand)
So basically I never asked for her back, don't want her back now, but was at the time single and interested in talking it out and renegotiating the relationship. Though I felt doing so in response to advances would've been a shortcut that would've avoided such discussions. If I want anything from nyte it would be the clarity I was asking for 3 years ago. As is I've been left to try to figure out what was fake or real. From someone who during the relationship said so many negative things about me that I offered to leave because I didn't want her around that kind of person.
My crime is asking her to explain her actions, and why they misalign so badly with her words. If i tried to have her define the relationship or her feelings for me in any sense she would deflect, give a non answer, ignore the question, zoom the scope out so that I have to solve systemic sexism in order to have the answer.... or tell me to look deep within myself to find her perspective somehow.
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You should have told us sooner
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Sorry if I come off as a dick sometimes, it's hard to empathize with other people when you know nothing about what they're going through
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oh look, youve posted again
I'm not interested in a fight again, Hype is clearly going through something and I'm not trying to make him feel like shit LMAO
it's still baffling how much you think everything is about you. there definitely is a common trend amongst you two
but let's be real, we both(haha) know you're just stirring up shit (any one of the 4 or 5 people posting)
Anyway as you can see this is sarcastic deflection, presented as not being affected so it can be dismissed and discredited.
SHE is mentally ill and did the exact same thing to me.