Wear Out the Victim. By staying on the offensive, the gaslighter eventually wears down their victim, who becomes discouraged, resigned, pessimistic, fearful, debilitated, and self-doubting. The victim begins to question her or his own perception, identity, and reality.
Form Codependent Relationships. The Oxford Dictionary defines codependency as "excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner.” In a gaslighting relationship, the gaslighter elicits constant insecurity and anxiety in the gaslightee, thereby pulling the gaslightee by the strings. The gaslighter has the power to grant acceptance, approval, respect, safety, and security. The gaslighter also has the power (and often threatens to) take them away. A codependent relationship is formed based on fear, vulnerability, and marginalization.
Give False Hope. As a manipulative tactic, the gaslighter will occasionally treat the victim with mildness, moderation, and even superficial kindness or remorse, to give the gaslightee false hope. In these circumstances, the victim might think: “Maybe he’s really not THAT bad,” “Maybe things are going to get better,” or “Let’s give it a chance.”
But beware! The temporary mildness is often a calculated maneuver intended to instill complacency and have the victim’s guard down before the next act of gaslighting begins. With this tactic, the gaslighter also further reinforces a codependent relationship.
Borrowed this (the passage above) from a psychology journal. Now without leading your thoughts too obviously; who is the first player that comes to mind?
I find it slightly suspect that Kieran still has yet to respond to my picture almost a day later. Won’t read into it too much but I just saw him typing so maybe this will prompt him for an actual response. He’s still typing so I know he’s in the thread
That picture (if serious) looks like a bad attempt at making Kieran look bad without having anything on him. Very rarely does someone deliberately make an effort to come off as friendly and narcissistic in the same post, if anything your post indicates that he does not care about how he looks and should (to you) - note that I do not agree with your analysis, serve as a townread instead of a scumread.
Pseudo friendly demeanor: personally when someone attacks me or accuses me of something, I personally don’t feel the need to take the claims serious if I’m innocent. I’m not trying to win u over by being nice to you, I just don’t think being completely serious is the only approach to handle accusations. Being friendly can help u in other domains too
Feigned ignorance: not trying to play dumb, probably should’ve said “ I see how u could think I’m trying to downplay the seriousness of the post, but I’m not sure if I think the same too”
Gaslighting: no narcissisme here,but gaslighting? I don’t think me saying how I feel constitutes me trying to gaslight my way out of an accusation. That’s how I feel: I’m innocent why would I feel compelled to hide anything? If you ask me something I’m going to try my best to convince the townies that I’m VT by countering your points.
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I think Klaze here is making a rather obvious attempt to play down his relationship with Kieran trying to forcefeed us the presumption that they're not in a private mafia chat. This message comes off as rather Jaunted and Awkward and Forced (although I'm sure these are three words to describe Klaze in real life hahaha!) as people have been referring to Kieran as kksweet numerous times in the thread. Unless Klaze is going with the narrative that he's just been blindly posting without reading the thread; now that would be a treat.
