i appreciate yns in these situations
yeah you know they have these cool groups of people you can meet who are nice and helpful and they’re all sober
Why don’t you go out to a meeting tonight and meet some new people you don’t even have to get a sponsor just talk to someone
I get he’s got good intentions but my reluctance to do group sessions is only bigger
Are you in Buffalo I actually know someone out there who is sober!
Just go to a meeting holy shit
Because I’d have to identify as someone who’s powerless over things I don’t think I’m powerless over and surrender myself to God which I’m OK with on principle but prbly not cause someone’s telling me to do it
Lets play the tape through:
You’re going to sit in your room and play video games and isolate away from everyone because they all do drugs and you’re not doing drugs anymore. Slowly but surely you’re going to just have no friends as your current friends stop inviting you to things because the shared interest of drugs is gone now. Because of this you’re going to become depressed and lonely your days will be long and full of boredom and depression caused in part by the changes your brain goes through when you get off drugs. You’re going to finally have enough of it between 1-3 months from now and your going to start hanging out with your friends again. The first few times will be fine you won’t drink or do anything but eventually you’ll tire of seeing everyone getting loaded and having fun and you’ll try and limit yourself to maybe one drink or one hit or just a couple. Nothing too major just enough to take the edge off and have some fun. Eventually you’ll be confident in your ability to control your usage because you’ve been going out “only on the weekends” and only using what you limit yourself to that you start to use more and more before eventually you’re right back where you were beforehand and just as miserable as before.
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You don’t have to identify as any of that to just go to a meeting. All you have to do is have a desire to quit drinking and you can attend a meeting. You may have issues identifying as an alcoholic. That’s fine, just go to a meeting and talk to people. They’re different than you think.
You don’t even have to get a sponsor, just go to one.
Again and particularly after what u said earlier I’d prefer to go through it on my own
Ok good luck they’ll be there if it doesn’t work out :)
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There re plenty of other tapes…Ones where meetings don’t work for the same reasons or where I’m actually just able to do it
yes you will stay sober from pure willpower and to spite some random person on the internet trying to help you
More for the dicksuck and making more realistic changes to my outlook as I continue to be sober p:
U call my fiance a junkie whore and expect me to see u as just a bro trying to make a difference…U made a point point made I don’t think ur a good person
I don’t need excuses to not support aa either way
u can think whatever u want and cry about how mean I’m being to u (although nothing I’m saying is untrue) and use it as an excuse or just listen. But you’re too smart to listen to anyone and you’ve got it all figured out. I already know dude I’ve talked to plenty of people and personally been through pretty much where you’re at with maybe some details being different. The mindstate is similar among everyone and you are no different. You’re actually tiring me out so I’m just going to let you do your own thing
Fine what would a meeting do for me which only a meeting could do
I’ll go if Matt gives me the money back