Like at the very least in general (so not your weird case) I’d hope the younger person had some reason or impetus to mature that occurred before they shared things, and/or that the older person doesn’t leverage their experience or other aspects for evil
Yeah I also think the older you are the less weird bigger age gaps get
Like a 45 and 60 year old is kinda "weird" and not the norm maybe but tbh I wouldnt say its problematic
Bc once you're a certain age theres not much more mental maturing you do
Issue with age gaps is when there is a difference in phase of life
Also when there is a major issue with maturity from the person on the upper side of the age gap (dating younger to cover significant personality flaws which would not be accepted by age-appropriate peers)
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There is also sometimes a power imbalance but power imbalances can happen even in age-matched relationships
All it comes down to is there are many kinds of abusive and manipulative relationships people can be in, and the chance of a relationship being one of those reaches very close to 100% when the relationship is an adult dating what that adult should consider a kid.
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Yes but that isn’t a good argument. One is much more predisposed to it and that’s the point. You copin about distributions isn’t necessary if you’re confident you aren’t in that group
It’s like saying yeah but sometimes “there’s other power imbalances in those relationships”
Like re 20-30 sure but I’d hope if you have a third of your life and approximately 600% of the time spent as a legal adult over someone that the power imbalance is minimal…cuz its obvious how it might not be otherwise