I just came back to this thread a few hours later, and the comments compared to the content is actually insane. She like, kicks a bag of chips once or twice im the video. Thats what she does.
Then the comments are "get a restraining order" "she shouldn't see her kids" "he should sue for damages" hahahahaha. Dude, shit hasn't changed for so long. I saw this kind of misogyny in my parents divorce TWENTY YEARS ago lmao. I'm just so tired. We will never learn.
My dad got to tell his side of the story exclusively for years. All of the judges and courts respected him more and took his word more seriously.
itās not common or atleast Iāve heard of and have older friends in the exact opposite boat Here. But yeah, in particular she doesnāt really do anything that bad and that is why I have been avoiding comments sections more. I knew people would have an emphatic response
Thatās what makes it funny to me. She kicks around a few bags. If she got cheated on, disregarded, and fucked in the divorce proceedings etc, it would obviously be worse than the shit she is doing even if sheās been doing it habitually for a period of time. People see things and almost never pick the non reductive route of trying to figure out things that arenāt explicitly infront of them.
Not that some people arenāt dicks and bitches but ironically once again itās like not a gender issue itās a people are crap issue so trying to focus on one gender seems so ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā that like I donāt even wanna read other peoples opinions about it because I know they arenāt gonna make me feel better
In those positions when I do read comments at some point I find myself in a sunk costed position seeking the Rational response. And it makes me feel a little better finding it when I do but it doesnāt offset how shitty people initially appeared to me
I have one friend who will probably not be able to meet or engage with his daughter until heās 18, owed hundreds of thousands in court fees and she completely manipulated the whole thing and lied with no recourse and the judge hated him for it. I feel immense sadness for him when he talks about like The offhanded ways heās considered reaching out to her now or later and what heāll do because itās sad he has to plan how to reconnect with his child in the first place
IMO Family court is often a sham in many cases when the Judge is pretty much judge jury and executioner and it posses me off how flawed and abused that whole world is in the first place
@magicmagininja probably has some great thoughts on this too being someone whoās dealt with family court I think
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That's so fucked
I 100% agree and I considered the context that could have led to her acting this way but I don't think any situation would have led me to behave like this if I was completely sober.
Yea, she might have been cheated on, yes she might be getting screwed in the divorce, yes to a lot of things before but you also need to recognize there's a chance none of those things happened and your own bias to consider she must have gone through some ting terrible to act like this, like if I saw a husband beating the shit out of his wife on camera, would you think to yourself as well, "oh my she must have done something terrible to him for him to be pushed to act this way towards her. What mistreatment did he receive from her? Hmm"
I think the thing that sealed the deal for me was that she was acting like this in front of the kids. I think being unable to control your emotions and letting out your rage in front of the kids makes all excuses go out the door because I doubt the kids had anything to do with it and just emotion dumping on the kids for problems in your life makes her a piece of shit parent in my eyes like someone having a bad day at work then getting drunk at a bar or at home then beating the shit out of their kids after for some stupid reason like leaving a toy outside or not cleaning their room, just finding some outlet to let off steam to try to regain a sense of control and ego in their own life which feels like it's spiraling.
Like same with people that abuse their pets, you know those people are pieces of shit to just abuse their position of power and bully a person or animal that has no way to defend themselves or argue back. It's pathetic behavior, so yea even if she was going thru some shit, going crazy on people or things that have nothing to do with it is psycho shit.
But I like those thighs. I can fix her. I'm sure of it.
Itās just not a good system. You have crazy parents who use kids to fight each other. They spend all their money on lawyers who are incentivized to keep fighting. And if it goes before a judge (a lot of the time they just agree with a court appointed mediator) itās based on maybe a few hours of testimony and one conversation the judge has with the kids.
The laws also typically favor both parents getting some custody as presumably that is in the ābest interest of the child.ā But it means that kids have to go be with shitty people sometimes.
Unfortunately I donāt know if thereās a better system that people would be willing to pay for. Because it would just be so expensive to do it right imo
I know we all scroll right past youtube links but I really recommend watching this
This is one of the most intriguing things i have ever watched
@Ghosty you arent allowed to watch it without me dont you dare
Essentially north korea but for one household of 15 children who were absused and not allowed to leave the house. Really incredible video and story
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