Holy fuck I exactly swiped decline on my future wife
It isn’t if you are in an atheist society. If not, however, all the problems I mentioned arise. You say “I don’t think it does” and “I don’t think it’s unreasonable” but evidence and logic says otherwise.
Children don’t think like 30 year olds, but they still remain the same person when they grow up - and minor
(or invisible really) personality issues compound with age.
Nothings a bigger turnoff for me than girls who shape their brows/have really thin eyebrows.
That’s a feel. There really should be an undo log.
I didn’t live in a Christian society.
I understand, I’m just talking about the Idea though. Just the concept - with no hostility towards others whatsoever, I never meant that you didn’t respect them or anything - I think is flawed.
Yes, none of this is about you in particular and I already said that.
and It doesn’t have to be a christian society either.
It’s just don’t think it’s healthy to raise your child to be different than everyone else in a way that is pretty much just saying “they’re wrong about this (a god existing) and we know better”.
That’s what is it fundamentally, no matter what way it is phrased.
@Nmagane I think religious people can just as easily grow up with a superiority complex. Your argument when ur like “except japan” appealing to majority la di da is somewhat logical, but I mean I think there are lots of ways stuff like this can happen. Kids getting better grades, doing better in sports than their peers etc. What makes you think the religious superiority is the biggest concern?
Because this thread is about that topic and this topic is the parents choice, not a result of the kids’ actions.
so sticking with religion then… what are you trying to say? if you are just saying let the chips fall where they land or whatever the saying is then ur not really parenting at all no?
I guess I just don’t understand. A muslim in america is going to have a superiority complex from what you are saying.
In my experience Japan is not exactly this religionless place. Very superstitious place, cult religions are common, people praying, etc.
Sticking with religion (not forcing it) is sticking with society, you said it well - “Majority la di da”. a kid’s personality is a result of their surroundings , peers, upbringing, and it develops pretty quickly.
Sorry
a kid cant just do a bunch of shrooms and have ego death. there will always be some amount of narcissism.
I’m just confused why you think religion leads to so much.
I think your point still stands regarding it I was just throwing it out there.
Not particularly, unless told particularly that non muslims are infidels or whatever.
It maybe made them (my parents) better than their parents, who shared in the situation of having abusive parents that would still put up appearances for Sunday mass, instead of being honest with everyone. My dad’s parents ended up getting a messy divorce after having 7 kids, and those kids were basically a way to maintain face in the very Catholic neighborhood my dad grew up in.
That neighborhood had plenty of catholics who were boosters of the church and very devout and later found to be dirty cops who used torture, so that was a definite turn off for my dad, not to mention the rumors of child abuse that were a thing even in the 70s and 80s.
Both of my parents went through Catholic education and public school, and I just think they came to the same conclusion I did where they didn’t need the faith or the idea of a present God to maintain their spiritual self and moral standards. It’s more of a case of bad people gaining great societal support through an otherwise fine belief system. My parents didn’t care to be a part of it.